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Sibling Rivals

April 7, 2013


Sibling rivalry is the jealousy, competition and fighting between brothers and sisters. It is a concern for almost all parents of two or more kids. Problems often start right after the birth of the second child. Sibling rivalry usually continues throughout childhood and can be very frustrating and stressful to parents. Sibling rivalry is one of humanity’s oldest problems. Most of the times, these aren’t taken seriously by the parents, in the future, the siblings will not have a good relationship with one another. Siblings will fight more with each other in families where there they haven’t been taught that fighting is not an acceptable way to resolve conflicts. Families that don’t share enjoyable times together will probably have more conflict. Stress in the parent’s lives can decrease the amount of attention parents give the children and increase sibling rivalry. In some cases, siblings take physical actions and tend to hurt one another. Many siblings start their feuds at an old age for land, money, and inheritances; this sometimes leads to hurting each other and gets fatal. Sibling rivalries not only affect the siblings themselves but also their families, their kids who would be cousins, wouldn’t be talking to one another, and this passes on to the next generations. Parents can reduce the opportunity for rivalry by refusing to compare or typecast their children, teaching the children positive ways to get attention from each other and from the parent, planning fun family activities together, and making sure each child has enough time and space of their own. They can also give each child individual attention, encourage teamwork, refuse to hold up one child as a role model for the others, and avoid favoritism.


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  1. mahmoudnch permalink

    This post pretty much describes my life right now… Having 4 younger siblings can really be a huge burden on your shoulders, since I’m responsible for their entire well being as their brother, but sometimes we can start fighting (not physically of course, but verbally) and arguing on and on, but that is life. Sure, we sometimes don’t get along at times, but at the end of the day, you’ll find us either happily playing Monopoly or watching a good movie together.

  2. this post is really interesting it explains the life of many people. when people have siblings they start to rival each other by excelling in sports or trying to do better than their siblings in many areas of their lives. some siblings even try to fight for their parents love even though their parents love them the same and equally. even some siblings can be very evil by fighting each other physically and sometimes verbally, but at the end they all come together and help each other when they need it.

  3. This is a very beneficial topic in which that it explains the competition between the siblings an the description that they are rivals was nice. Especially when you mentioned that the siblings compete in many aspects including, sports and games. This competition is positive because it act as Motivator for them to move foreword and give their best shot.

  4. Fatima permalink

    It is such an interesting issue. I think siblings rivalry exists in every family because parents can’t pursue this problem till the end. It is very complicated for them and hard not to compare between their children. But, you’ll always notice the magical result at the end.

  5. It’s not a big issue in childhood because some conflicts that arise among brothers and sisters are not so serious. It becomes more concerning problem when brothers or sisters are adults. There are some conflicts between them that can lead to bad consequences. Therefore, parents should be able to teach their children to be kind,patient and helpful to each other.

  6. Faris Aqra permalink

    I have always found that siblings have a tendency to compare between one another and want to be the best which is quite funny because it does not matter who is best because they are at the end of the day family.

  7. ornuwarah permalink

    This is a very relatable post. All my life, i have been have problems with this kind of rivalry. My younger brother always compared themselves to me and this made everything much harder. like staying late…. increasing my allowance and other things. But the love is always there, and this is whats important. .

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